I know that there are some birthmothers who read my blog. I have a question for you.
I honestly have never known how to deal with Mother’s Day with N’s birthmom. I haven’t called her in the past because I figured that it was her day with her mother and her other children. I have been afraid of making it a more difficult day for her.
This year, though, I’m thinking about calling. N~ has an understanding now of the role that she plays in his life. And she knows that he has it figured out. So, I’m thinking that it might be a good thing now to have him acknowledge her tomorrow, too.
On the other hand, she didn’t acknowledge his birthday this year, so I’m wondering if this means that she is struggling with things right now. Or maybe it is just because she has a newborn that she is dealing with.
I just don’t know if calling her would make it more positive, or if it would bring sadness closer to the surface.